Yes

When I was a kid, it seemed to me that my dad always said “no” when I asked for things or to do things. It was almost as if he was looking for an excuse to just tell me “no”. Or so I thought. I think I have turned into that mom. At least my kids think I have. Anyway, I figured it was high time for us to have a “yes” day. My kids were all about it. I told them a couple of days ahead of time so that they could make some plans. I was pretty sure I knew exactly how my day would go down and quite honestly, I was pretty close. 

First things first, we laid out some ground rules. I wasn’t willing to spend more than $25 each and we couldn’t drive somewhere further than 30 miles. Both of those rules made Disneyland an impossibility. Also, nothing dangerous or illegal. Anyway, here’s how our day went:

First, London requested cookie dough for breakfast. Ashton wanted puffy pancakes. So cookie dough and puffy pancakes it was.

Then we were off to Sea World, but not before London put a bit of makeup on. Once at Sea World, I was sure we would go to a show and sit in the soak zone. But the kids weren’t interested in shows. They were interested in rides. Ashton went on every ride they would let him on by himself. And Atlantis, the one I always say “no” to, we all rode. They bought souvenirs and played carnival games, both of which are always no-nos. 

Once home from Sea World, both kids wanted to play on the computer. Okay. After a while, London was dying to go to the mall. So we ventured out once again. Both kids, of course, rode the carousel. Twice.

They both had tumbling that evening, so we picked up Taylor from work and headed over there, only to find out that the time in my head was not the same time that the class started. So they made it for the last 10 minutes. Whatever.  After that, we went to Round Table for some pizza. When we were no longer hungry, we packed up blankets and pillows and ventured out one last time to the drive-ins. (Also, when I say one last time, I mean that maybe that will also be our last time at the drive-ins. We don’t really have the right car for it, the screen is hard to see with all of the cars in front of you, it’s late, and it’s COLD! I think I’d rather pay a few extra bucks for comfy seats because although it is a double feature, who really can stay awake for both movies? I didn’t even make it through the first!)

We really had a great day and I learned some valuable lessons. First of all, saying “yes” all day is kind of liberating. It was nice to let my kids call the shots and not be shot down. Ever. And they had to compromise. “Yes” day was for both of them, so if one kid didn’t want to go into the See’s Candy shop (which I think is crazy), we didn’t go into the See’s Candy shop. Lastly, I need to be sure to have a day full of nothing planned after the “yes” day because I will inevitably have cranky kids. Like really cranky. So cranky, in fact, that even two days later, Ashton refused to go to primary and sat out in the hall all through church on Sunday. That kid needs his sleep or he is not a happy camper. I think my kids also learned some valuable lessons, like it’s almost always a waste of money to play carnival games. They also learned that their mom isn’t the meanest, at least not all of the time. 

We will most definitely be doing this again. Taylor suggested that it’s not only the kids who need “yes” days every once in a while. We decided to make this a one-person-at-a-time thing. Every year, our half birthday will be our “yes” day. So mine will be the first, coming up in July. I already have plans of a really clean house when my days is over. And since we’re doing it on half birthdays, the kids don’t have to compromise. They will each get their own “yes” day. And I’ll prepare a little better by binge sleeping a few days before hand. It was a long day, packed with lots of fun things, and I, for one, am exhausted.